Sometimes the fleeting moments of our life hold the most pivotal events which shape our future. These moments can be life altering and on an otherwise ordinary Sunday afternoon a family can break in the most heart wrenching way.
The death of a parent is a devastating event in a child's life. While the child is thrown into grief so is the surviving parent and while they are trying to come to terms with their own loss they must also gather enough strength to support their children.
In 2014 Marta had to reach deep within after her husband suddenly collapsed and died leaving behind Marta and their two small children. This is her story and how she survived that first day, the first year and how she is coping 3 years later. Thank you so much for sharing your story of Wonder Woman strength.
It all started on a warm Sunday morning, me and Jack and the kids decided to go to a playground and a nice lunch by the lake.
The kids started playing and Jack was running after them and suddenly, he collapsed. At the beginning I though he just needed to sit in the shade but before we knew it he was in the hospital. It is an unreal feeling when someone tells you: “Your husband just died.”
That night coming home from the hospital and letting the kids know that their dad died was the worst. My 6-year-old daughter knew her dad had died, because the first words where: “Daddy is dead?”.
The next day I was in a fog and I probably stayed in one for the next year.
I don’t remember that first year, all I remember is that the kids needed their mom and that I needed to stay strong for them.
I have a great support system around me… my dear and faithful parents. They stepped up where I was falling behind. My younger son who was 18 months thinks of his grandpa as his dad. So, does my now 10-year-old daughter. I don’t know where I would be without them.
It has been 3 years since Jack’s passing and I stay focused on the kids. I go to work, come home, play with kids or drive them to their activities, and the days just keep going.
We celebrate all of Jack’s birthdays and this year we will bake cookies and stay home.
I try to stay positive most days, but sometimes I just don’t want to get out of bed, those days are rarer nowadays.
We will always remember Jack, but now we are making our own memories that just include the 3 of us😊